Family arguments are almost unavoidable. We are human after all. We all share different views and opinions on everything from music to politics. Often these minor disagreements get swept under the carpet. But sometimes our words and our actions can cause a great deal of upset to those closest to us and vice versa. An unresolved family conflict can start from nothing and develop into years of unrest and anger. If you are currently dealing with a dispute and don’t know how to handle it, read these suggestions to attempt to make things right again.
Suggest a meeting
It’s best to do this once everybody have cooled down and had time to process. Suggest a meeting with the person you have fallen out with, with only you two present. Other family members may exacerbate the situation further. If you would like someone else, present take a friend who is uninvolved with the conflict. Also, suggest meeting in a neutral location. If the dispute is concerning finances or property, it may be wise to meet at a Family Law Solicitors office. This will provide you with some support should you need it. For a less formal setting, suggest a local park or coffee shop. Remain calm and listen to what they have to say. Explain why you were angry or upset with them too but always remain civil. It could be a simple misunderstanding that can be easily rectified with a simple apology from both sides.
Forgive and move on
If your attempts to arrange a meeting to talk get ignored, it might be wise to move on. Having too much pride to apologise or being too stubborn to meet up and talk shows a great deal of immaturity. You will come across as the bigger person for making attempting to resolve the situation. The only thing you can do now is forgive and move on. Even if you are the one in the wrong, you need to forgive yourself for your own well-being. If you do meet up and accept their apology and vice versa, that should be the end of the dispute. If you continue to bring up the topic and hold onto your resentment, you could find yourself quickly back to square one with this relative. Sometimes forgiveness can be difficult to achieve if the conflict involves abuse or theft. So you may have to cut this relative out completely.
Agree to disagree
Sometimes it’s better to let things be and just agree to disagree. Learn from your mistakes and understand the cause of the argument. If you are passionate about something, it can be tempting to push the conversation further and prove you are correct. Listening and being open to other’s views is a more positive way of having discussions. The best part of being a human is that we are all unique and even though you may disagree that does not mean the other person is wrong either. If you can feel a conflict arising, defuse the situation by changing the subject or finding a common ground.
These are just a handful of ways you can deal with your family disputes. Each family is different and will react in different ways to different things. The best thing you can do is to listen and remain calm at all times to maintain your family bond.