Wednesday 21 April 2021
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12 Steps To Asserting Yourself

Being assertive in a relationship with friends, family or with your other half is vitalIt allows you to be on the same footing and you will also feel better about yourself when you are assertive.

Start now

It can be difficult to be assertive but you should practice next time an issue comes up. You need to start speaking up. If you keep everything to yourself you will start to become miserable, so it’s best to say what is on your mind.

Have your say

Your opinion matters just as much as everyone else’s, so let it out otherwise you will always be a doormat in the relationship.

Just say 

You are able to say no if you do not want to do something. Don’t let others take advantage of you and say no.

A little stubbornness goes a long way

If you want to be more assertive then you will have to be difficult at times, instead of running to everyone else’s whim.

Visualize it!

You should create an image of strength in your mind. If you imagine yourself as a stronger person, you can use this image when you need to be assertive.

Believe in yourself

In order to be assertive you have to believe in yourself and know what is important to you. You will need a strong sense of who you are so you can be assertive.

Know your boundaries

A key factor to becoming assertive is knowing your boundaries and when someone is crossing them.

Know what you want

You need to have a firm grasp of what it is that you want and what you want to achieve by being assertive in a situation.

Avoid anger 

There is a fine line between being assertive and being angry. When you are assertive you still need to be respectful to others.

Explain yourself

When you are assertive you need to speak clearly and express yourself in an understandable manner.


If you are not used to being assertive then you will have to practice so that you know how to speak and when to put this into action.

Body Language

When a situation arises and you have to use your new-found assertiveness you will have to make eye contact so that you project a stronger character. Your assertiveness and confidence is shown through your body language, from your walk to how you sit, so be confident even though it feels uncomfortable at first. The more you do it the more it will become natural.

Assertiveness is a trait that will need to be learned, but it is a great one to have and you will ultimately feel better about yourself.